When Over Doesn't Mean Stop
When over does not mean stop, then everything gets too complicated to be handled. Let me give an example of job resignation.
When you say it's over boss I am leaving, that doesn't take immediate effect at all. For most of us it means another month of doing whatever needed to be done before the last day come. For executive position it may means another 2 or 3 months of enduring the stress of being about-to-leave :) And since we are human and not a machine, the feeling during that period of time really get us. Your boss may not say anything related with your resignation, but whenever you should have direct encounter with him/her, you will feel that his/her eyes give you the signal of "you betrayed me, bitch!!" *drama queen mode on*. Or over lunch time your colleagues will constantly ask the benefit of the next job you are about to do (in front of everybody *sigh*). I know that we don't like to discuss this things but some people seem do not understand the code of conduct at all and instead just do whatever their small brain tell them to do. And how do you feel about that?
Some of that feeling may true but some may only the thinking in our heads hahah.. Anyway living in the period of about-to-leave is complicated. And since we don't have the 'skip machine' in life then we really have to live with that for the time being :))
I think it is more or less the same with personal relationship. When we say it's over to our boyfriends usually we still call him over and over again months after that. And that will only cause us miserable feeling. Especially when he already move forward like having new partner or reunite with his previous partner before us. And yet we are still thinking that he's the one. Stupid, eh? :D
I try to understand that dealing with feeling is not a linear process. No matter how hard we want to make our self strong and unshakable about a decision, when we come home, once a while we will broke down into tears. And it's not about being weak, it's just a natural process before we reach the finish line. And if one person say why spare tears for a boss who doesn't deserve to be followed or a man who doesn't make you the one, better to ask them to back off. Because we, girls, know better how to live our life :)
When you say it's over boss I am leaving, that doesn't take immediate effect at all. For most of us it means another month of doing whatever needed to be done before the last day come. For executive position it may means another 2 or 3 months of enduring the stress of being about-to-leave :) And since we are human and not a machine, the feeling during that period of time really get us. Your boss may not say anything related with your resignation, but whenever you should have direct encounter with him/her, you will feel that his/her eyes give you the signal of "you betrayed me, bitch!!" *drama queen mode on*. Or over lunch time your colleagues will constantly ask the benefit of the next job you are about to do (in front of everybody *sigh*). I know that we don't like to discuss this things but some people seem do not understand the code of conduct at all and instead just do whatever their small brain tell them to do. And how do you feel about that?
Some of that feeling may true but some may only the thinking in our heads hahah.. Anyway living in the period of about-to-leave is complicated. And since we don't have the 'skip machine' in life then we really have to live with that for the time being :))
I think it is more or less the same with personal relationship. When we say it's over to our boyfriends usually we still call him over and over again months after that. And that will only cause us miserable feeling. Especially when he already move forward like having new partner or reunite with his previous partner before us. And yet we are still thinking that he's the one. Stupid, eh? :D
I try to understand that dealing with feeling is not a linear process. No matter how hard we want to make our self strong and unshakable about a decision, when we come home, once a while we will broke down into tears. And it's not about being weak, it's just a natural process before we reach the finish line. And if one person say why spare tears for a boss who doesn't deserve to be followed or a man who doesn't make you the one, better to ask them to back off. Because we, girls, know better how to live our life :)
posted by nana at 10:31 AM
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Love the title! :))
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